One thing I have learned through my years is in recovery from co-dependency is that despite the actions of others toward me or what others may or may not have said to me and about me, I have a choice as to whether or not I are going to allow what happened in the past to continue ruin my life. I’m not. However, sometimes the thoughts in our head keep us in the trap of seeing ourselves as victims, and less then.

Early in my recovery I kept running to mindsets that had me crippled. The negative things that had been dictating my life kept repeating like a video set on a loop. The same scenes repeated in my head. The interior self talk was harder to get away from than the abuse of others. I had to start talking differently and change the way I viewed myself. As hard as I tried to erase the tapes somehow they were still there. I discovered the power of affirmations by just doing it. Every time I looked in the mirror and said, “You are loved and worthy of being love” everything within me rejected those words. But I kept doing it. And eventually the affirmation statements I spoke to myself began to replace the old tapes.

The tapes that play in our head need to be re-recorded with positive thoughts. This doesn’t happen by osmosis. It happens through intentionality and living on purpose. It happens by speaking words of love and truth to ourselves even if at first we don’t believe it. All I can say about affirmations is that most of us believe things about ourselves that simply aren’t true. The only way to change what we think is to change what we think. Put in new and good information. Changing the data that is going into our inner selves will have an impact on our inner selves. We overcome evil with good. Replace the garbage with fresh and clean positive things. God’s plans for us is for our good. His plans for us is for our welfare and not for calamity, to give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worthy of love. Our Heavenly Father thought you were worthy of the gift of His Son, Jesus. Jesus gave His life that you might have life everlasting. (John 3:16) Since God sees you as worthy of love, ask Him to give you the ability to see yourself through His eyes. You are loved with the greatest love known to mankind.

Here’s a list I found online of 40 self care affirmations  Find a few that are a fit for you, and speak them out loud to yourself.

1. I love, accept and appreciate myself and others unconditionally.

2. I choose to be blissfully happy and healthy in mind, body and spirit.

3. I am strong, empowered and capable of anything.

4. Every day, in every way I am learning to embrace my imperfections.

5. I am adventurous, fearless and fierce.

6. I am free from expectations and criticism.

7. I am worthy of abundance and prosperity.

8. I am a beautiful and unique individual.

9. I am enough just as I am, right now and always.

10. I recognize where I’ve been and celebrate the person I’m becoming.

11. I choose to let go of negative self chatter.

12. I am smart, courageous and self confident.

13. I am loved.

14. I choose not to take things personally.

15. I believe in myself and offer value to others.

16. I choose to forgive myself and others and to let go of the past.

17. I nurture my passions and creativity by doing things I love.

18. I am gentle with myself and treat myself with kindness.

19. Every day, in every way I get to know my authentic self.

20. My self care is worth making time for.

21. I take great care of and love my body, for it is a temple and I treat it with respect.

22. I take time to nourish my whole self.

23. I am a priority in my own life.

24. I have compassion for myself and my mistakes, and have the same for others.

25. I dream big and create my life with intention.

26. I honor my intuition and use it as a guide.

27. I have the courage to say no and set healthy boundaries.

28. I allow myself to heal.

29. I am grateful for who I am.

30. I am patient with myself.

31. I am worthy of all things wonderful.

32. I am in perfect health.

33. I release self doubt, self defeat and self sabotage.

34. I choose to live in the moment and take things one day at a time.

35. I am the hero in my own life story.

36. I release the false security of being a people pleaser.

37. I choose to let go of what I can’t control.

38. I accept myself regardless of my mistakes.

39. I choose freedom over being a victim and to release all past pain and emotional baggage.

40. My light shines bright, I am free to be me, now and always!